The Way of Death : The Practical

Family, Friends, Community,

Death's tao; the way, comes late at night unwelcome. 
Or is a slow moving lava flow melting
our psyche in it's path.
Death's way, in the past has
hit me like a hard snow ball
making a splodgy impact across my heart.
Beloved mother, father, sister, friend and pet.

These memories nudge me to share 
the practical and profound ways
I have experienced death.
These shares are for me to grow up my vulnerability 
and for you when missing your Beloveds.
And for a moment,
we can walk together down
this often times dark and unchartable path.
On the one year anniversary of my mother's passing,
what once was tearful thoughts, have arisen
and become luminous sign posts.
A path clear, comforting and joyful that bids me 
forward to explore death in all of it's ways.

OMwards
Love,
M

Death's Way :   No. 1  The Practical

My Mother was organized, detailed and practical.
Always underscored with nurturance and care.
Even at the end, Mom was practical.

Young me didn't appreciate practicality.
It wasn't until I was much older that I understood the love
that my Mother imbued in each practical act.
Here are some that have guided.

Mom hand stitched our names onto camp clothing so as not to be
left in the lost and found after we mindlessly dropped our hard earned clothes.
Many of which were retrofitted and fashion forwarded each year.

Mom taught us how to cook; a lesson carried through to present.
From an early age my sister and I made our lunches and started supper.
We were able home makers when both Mom and Dad were away at work.
Each member taking part in the nuclear family ethic.

As teens, Mom showed us how to be neat, tidy and presentable in public.
The current styles were accepted by her and the only requirement was that 
nothing was torn or past it's prime.  She would say, "never know who or when
you'll meet an important person."

As adults, Mom was practical in our relationship choices. 
She was always welcoming to those we chose.
Though judgement was held close, knowing that if judgement
was passed, the Ones she didn't like, we would want even more.
She practiced practical psychology.

In the End, as I was sorting through her belongings,
I found post its on items of interest.
Mom had labeled every important document and keepsake item 
that was to be bequeathed to our family and friends.
Love, thought and care all tidy for us
and practical to the end.

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Heavenly Valley Snow Mommy 1984
Mary Fujiko Kobayashi - Nishifué
9/8/1925 - 3/7/2023

A bible of practical advice for death and living in the moment.
Many times I refer to Dr. Miller and Ms. Berger skillfully written ways to make sacred the business of dying and populate living with vibrance and creativity.

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